Jim was ill with chicken pox and Ruby seemed to show all the symptoms except for the spots. Needless to say both were absent from school for a little over a week, which left us housebound for a few days.
During this I had to go to court. Spent most of the day there. Everything seemed to go as I expected with His agreeing not to contest to the children and I moving as long as I excepted 50%. I said we were not there to discuss finances, only custody and permission for me to leave the area. The judge set an order for us to appear in court next month, for one last time to finalise everything. Which was silly because the whole point of the last judge ordering me to go for custody, was so that the finances could be sorted at a final hearing. Point being that if I can't leave the area I would stay in the house. If I can leave then He would buy me out.

So am I being greedy asking for 60%? Taking into consideration that he has sold 2 of the vehicles that we owned and had the 2k claimed from bank charges on our joint account. He has a pension which im not interested in and has been basically living here for free for over 12months while i've tried to cover everything with Income Support, Child Tax Credit and Child Benefit. He's still paying off debts at the reduced rate inspite of being in work. Which I will have to pay half of the outstanding amounts.

Having said all this, He has been very reasonable the last few weeks. Even paid for shopping and put money towards gas and electricity. And there is a reason for this.

You see after all the hassel he gave me over meeting K on the net and how I couldn't possibly know him properly,(It's been over 8yrs since I first became friends with him and 12mths since we met in person as more than a friend.)or have any real feelings for him, He has met a lady from Ghana. This relationship started at the beginning of November when she contacted him on a dating site and has progressed to talk of getting married. She is even coming here (Yes here, at our house!!!) to stay, arriving on 23rd and leaving on about the 2nd to return to London where she is supposed to have a flat and a job!

We are supposed to be going to my mother's for Christams Tea. However I did say that I thought it was a bit much for her to go. She would be made welcome, but I thought it was brave of her to come to Him and stay in the house with His X wife and children and don't think that tea with his X wife's family was appropriate. Thankfully he agreed.

Am I mad to let her stay? He would never let K into the house. I'm not a mean, nasty person (in spite of what He may say) but I do see this as an advantage that I can use in court if I need too. In the meantime, lets see how it goes with this woman who is 10yrs younger than me and who we (older children and I) think is after his money.

Ruby has just come out in chicken pox. Last day of school...ah well.